NTodd's mom died, suddenly, unexpectedly. He's in the air right now, on his way back from California. I have no words to ease pain I know he's feeling.
My mother, my grandmother, and my sister all died between 1997-2000. None were sudden, all were preceded by long periods of suffering. It took me literally years to "get my sparkle back," as Thers put it.
NTodd has suffered roughly similar losses--all unexpected--within less than a year.
Everything is inadequate now, but this song still chokes me up every time I hear it.
For you, NTodd.
The Offspring, "Gone Away."